Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a great weekend! Personally, I didn’t go shopping and buy anything unnecessary as I typically do on weekends I don’t have plans, so that’s a win for me. This is one of my last free weekends for a while, so I tried to take advantage of it! That’s what we’re talking about today, being busy and how to tell if your plate is absolutely too full. It is a skill I have only recently learned, and practiced for the first time just this week, so clearly I am an expert.
I love to be busy. Like, usually to the point where I freak out just a little bit. I’ve been this way since college, and I’m not really sure why. I think it’s because there’s always so many things I want to do, so I try to do as many as possible. However, there have been a few times that in my quest to do it all, I essentially couldn’t do anything well. Like the time I had to quit an organization my freshman year of college because I just had so much to do that I could not handle it. Or the six thousand times I stopped blogging because I got busy with school, work, or other things. None of those were ideal situations.
But on the other hand, I don’t like to quit thin.gs, or let people down, or admit I can’t do something. I would rather just say yes and figure it out later than say no. Currently, a lot of the things I’m doing are voluntary, but I’m still committed to them and want to do my best. Earlier this week, my friend asked me to help out with the social media for a new community-wide Bible study we’ve started at my church. I instantly panicked, because I really wanted to help, but at the same time I heard a voice in my head saying “you are booked through November and you haven’t cleaned your floors in like six weeks and you stay up until midnight every night, you cannot do this”. So, for the first time in my life, I had to say no. I was sad, and I felt a little guilty about it at first, but I’ve decided that it’s okay to say no sometimes. I’ve heard this a lot, but I thought that was for people who just couldn’t handle it or didn’t want to do something. But I’ve been thinking, and here are some times that it’s okay to say no to an extra project:
1. You’re already in over your head
If you are already stressed, panicked, and staying up way too late trying to get everything done, that’s a sure sign that you definitely don’t have time for anything else. If you try to do too much, you’ll end up doing everything halfway, which doesn’t help anyone. Plus if you’re a grouch because you’ve stayed up all night writing blog posts, no one will care about how great your blog is. They’re just going to know that you’re unpleasant to be around, which is not a good look. And you shouldn’t feel bad about not wanting to be stressed out.
2. What you’re doing can’t be postponed
Currently, I’m working a lot on Holiday Market for the Junior League. And by a lot I mean every day for quite some time. And it’s a train that’s moving full speed ahead with no stopping until mid-November. So I can’t put it off for a few weeks to pick up something else. Will I be able to do other things once Holiday Market is behind me? Maybe! But until then, that is my main focus. And that’s okay!
3. You don’t have time to hang out with friends, take care of yourself, or read your Bible
This kind of goes along with #1, but sometimes it’s hard to recognize that you’re in over your head until the really, really important things start slipping away. I had a hard time with this at first because I thought, “well, I don’t have kids, or a husband, or a boyfriend, so I can make time, nothing I’m doing is as important as those things.” False. There are many, many other things that are important in life besides those three things, but that is a blog post for another day. No matter what stage of life you’re in, there are certain things that you should always make time for. One is your quiet time, and for me, this is the first to go. I will stay up late writing a blog post and fail to get up early enough to do my Bible study. Instead, I’ll read a quick devotional and fall asleep while praying before I go to bed. After a few weeks of this, I’ll start to notice a change in my relationship with the Lord: like I’m trying to just squeeze it in and check it off, and that’s not good. Another thing is taking care of yourself. Sometimes if I get really busy, I’ll stop working out and grab dinner instead of cooking. Not exercising makes me feel slow and tired, and if I eat too much Chick-Fil-A, I start to feel like a chicken nugget: greasy and round. I know that if I don’t have time to run and cook at least twice a week, it is time to cut back. Another thing is time with friends or family. Friends have always been a big part of my life, and if all I do is stay home and work or run from meeting to meeting and never do anything fun, I freak out just a little bit. The same goes with my family: if I am too busy to go home and see them every month or so, I get kind of upset. It’s important to take time to do the things you need to do!
All of this to say, if I can say no to piling something extra on my plate, you can too! Unless it’s food, which in that case, by all means.
That’s all for meow!
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